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Michael Bogdanffy-kriegh
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I am married with two dogs and one cat; for a long time I was an architect, now I am a fine art photographer; I walk daily for exercise and to gather photos; I love to cook and am interested in anything to do with good food; i read a good amount, mostly non-fiction, and a smattering of fiction, mostly classics but occasionally new stuff; my interest in photography goes beyond making pictures to studying the work of other photographers and collecting photo books; i have a deep interest in the subject of women in photography, in front of the camera, behind the camera, as critic, as curator. Recently I entered the trans-feminine space.
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From today’s walk…

Close up of a pink peony flower. Closeup of light purple iris flowers. Closeup of window with closed vertical blinds and two pieces of tape stuck to the window casting shadows onto the blinds. Closeup of pink and white foxglove blossoms. Closeup of display of small multicolored toys in a shop window, among them a couple of trolls and an astronaut with a fracture visor. Close up of a pink bust of a woman with green cats eye sunglasses decorated with flowers on the corners of the frame. Spray bottles in a shop window. The wooden frame of a window screen in front of them. Reflections of the street overlaid.
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So, tonight at a party I was in almost full feminine mode. Only lacking lipstick. An acquaintance said to me, “you have a different look,” to which I replied, “yes, I am exploring trans-feminine space.” I much prefer being asked about my changes to polite silence. Just saying.

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Flirting with Disaster - by Mona Charen - The Bulwark

Those are the stakes. It is tragic and shameful that so many fail to see it.

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Flirting with Disaster - by Mona Charen - The Bulwark

We are staring down the possibility of putting someone back in power who has demonstrated that he is willing to use informal violence to achieve his anti-democratic ends. He attempted a coup with a mob of enraged zealots. How tragically foolish must you be to give him the power to wield formal, state-sanctioned violence? Think the president hasn’t the power? Read the Insurrection Act.

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@alexink hope your MIL will be ok. Falls are never good for older people. Anybody really, but badder the older you get.

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@aa this is such a touching post. Thank you for sharing. I wish you the best in your next phase.

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@V_ the coffee shop I frequent doesn’t seem to have limits.

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@Annie a beautiful day in the neighborhood!

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I almost got hit by a car this morning. Someone turned left and was taking no prisoners. They just missed me. A woman witnessed it. She said I was in the right and that I was almost hit. I am shaken. I am wondering if I have experienced my first hate incidence, or was it just an idiot?

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@hollie beautiful! And I like thinking you might be ex CIA… but are we talking spooks or food?

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@hollie i really like that plan!

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@matt congrats! Nice presentation!

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@Parag thank you!

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@Changeling to be clear, my friend and I were not so much in favor of lesbian separatism in our conversation about it, though as a lesbian, she had much more standing to say so. Also, the article seemed to be advocating a pretty strident separatism, almost on the order of a convent. For example, in some of these communities, women who have a male child are asked to leave the community or not admitted.

I very much understand the need for separatism for just about any community that gets steamrolled by the dominant culture. My stance isn’t so much no to separatism, as it is no to extreme separatism (which also goes for any form of extremism). The dominant culture will always have to be dealt with. So, a non-binary exclusive community sounds good to me as a place where a non-binary person can find complete safety, but i wouldn’t like the idea if it were a place one rarely left.

Human beings are a rainbow of ways of being. I am choosing to openly be a different color within it.

Sorry to hear about your chronic health issues. I hope that they can be well managed. My wife has very poor eyesight. Functionally blind in one eye, and not the best sight in the other, though she has done amazing things in her life given the vision limitation.

Thanks for reading and replying to my post. I am enjoying the conversation!

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@Changeling it’s very satisfying to be right:-)… interestingly, I recently decided to change my pronouns to him/her he/she. I am not overly fond of they. My lesbian friend was in agreement on that, but we are both in our 60’s. Could be generational. When I think about myself it is more often as he/him than she/her, but i am always happy when presenting femininely to be identified as she/her. Someone addressed me as “mam” a while back and I really liked the feel of that.

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@Changeling it’s a tricky landscape for sure. But it’s great you’re making the effort.

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@pratik @stupendousman I wouldn’t expect all of them to jump ship or even most of them. Just some of them. A democratic insider suggested that if only 1/5 did, it would be big.

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@stupendousman and 2020 went the right way in my opinion. I don’t care about polls right now. So much can happen between now and November. I worry about the youth vote and Kennedy. On the other hand, a significant percentage of Republicans have consistently voted for Haley in the primaries even after she pulled out. And I think women and those who love them are not to be underestimated. I also think support for Trump is falling apart. It was big that Mike Johnson teamed up with Democrats to actually so some work and protect his speakership. And other Republicans are taking a stand against him.

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Coming Out to a Larger Circle essaysonattentionpaid.com
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Feeling particularly beautiful today…

Trans feminine person with hair down to shoulders in gently coiling curls, orange pink lipstick, orange pink tropical scarf, dark colored thick frame glasses.

Happy Monday!

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@Miraz oh no! Hope she is ok.

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OMG, just watched first couple of episodes of Hacks season 3. What a balm for the soul!

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This doesn’t happen too often, but boy am I depressed today. It’s been a strange week altogether. No patience for frustration of any kind. Not able to pin it on anything. Just a bad frame of mind, and an irritating run of days.

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I have been reorganizing my self watering planter tanks so I can put more in. I have 4 dedicated to tomatoes, herbs and beans. I will install another 4 by end of next week. In the fall I am planning another 4.

A line of galvanized steel livestock tanks converted raised beds for a vegetable garden.

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@stupendousman having had a difficult dad I can empathize with.

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@aeryn thank you! It should be a safe place as the woman having the birthday is lesbian and has been super supportive of my feminine explorations. Thanks for reading and responding!

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My Feminine Blossoming, An Update essaysonattentionpaid.com
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Last night we went to a Todd Rundgren concert. It’s got me thinking about listening to music live and playing it back through whatever device. At the concert I had an immersive experience. At home it’s mostly background noise.

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@jemostrom a nice set!

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I have given up on my Apple desktop computer. It’s so slow that it has become useless. It isn’t that old. Sure, it was a basic unit, but it won’t even run an internet browser without massive delays in loading pages.

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heathercoxrichardson.substack.com/p/may-5-2…

Really important post from Heather Cox Richardson. Practically copied the entire thing into my journal. Highly recommend reading this one.

Trump’s war on the Department of Justice over his attempt to overturn the results of the 2020 presidential election has already progressed into an attempt to delegitimize the results of the 2024 election, suggesting he does not believe he will win in a free and fair election.

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That moment when you realize the Green Egg thermometer isn’t working and the brisket you thought had been cooking for hours hasn’t been cooking at allll and you need a plan B for feeding 8 dinner guests…

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May 2, 2024 - by Heather Cox Richardson

This is very worth reading as an explanation of the complex political nature of campus unrest over Israeli/Palestinian conflict.

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@pratik In the case of Columbia, a building was being occupied, and in California, if it was USC, a private university, the university administration has right to arrest and remove students even if not in a building. That said, I am in favor of students protesting and demanding change in non-violent ways. I think that because it is an election year though, there are going to be efforts to make the Biden administration look bad through these protests and that students will easily become unwitting pawns in the game so to speak.

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@stupendousman I agree, but failure to see what is at stake in this moment is stupid selfishness IMHO. I don’t like the choices we have right now but I know exactly what I need to do. Will they wake up?

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@stupendousman i am an older voter remembering the Vietnam era protests who is pretty sure what is happening on campuses is not just student upset over Palestine. The situation between Israel and the Palestinians is bad for sure, but various actors are g-ing things up for political purposes, now as they were then.

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Have I mentioned how much I love wearing lipstick? Of all the things I do to feel feminine, this is hands down the most potent. When I am not wearing lipstick, I miss it in a visceral way.

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My wife is a huge Todd Rundgren fan, me, not so much. Making my wife happy, priceless!

Screenshot of concert ticket for Todd Rundgren show.
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April 30, 2024 - by Heather Cox Richardson

Cortellessa writes that Trump intends to establish “an imperial presidency that would reshape America and its role in the world.”

That he can talk openly in this way and still be running neck and neck with Biden in the poles astonishes me.

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All the thought and attention I am paying to my feminine look is inspiring the women close to me to be more thoughtful about their appearance too. I’ve seen this in my wife, and in a friend, who told me last night that she now thinks more carefully about her look when she knows she will see me.

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Spring is springing!

Dogwood tree in full bloom.
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This dress came today and it’s amazing! From the compostable/recyclable packaging it came in, to the quality construction of the garment, to the way it fit me, to the reasonable price of all that! I will be buying more from Everlane.

Black linen midi dress on a model.

Total score!

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@KimberlyHirsh fantastic! That should make child management while working easier! At least I hope it does:-)

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@pratik definitely not for the faint of heart! Hope it’s something easily dealt with.

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Michael Bogdanffy-kriegh
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Today’s look…

Headshot of a trans-feminine individual with black and blond wood bead necklace, black and white tiki pattern headband, black and white thin stripped dress, stripes changing direction on panels down the side, hair falling to her shoulders in gently coiling curls, dark framed glasses. Upper body shot of a trans-feminine individual with black and blond wood bead necklace, black and white tiki pattern headband, black and white thin stripped dress, stripes changing direction on panels down the side, hair falling to her shoulders in gently coiling curls, dark framed glasses.
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Michael Bogdanffy-kriegh
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As I spend more time openly presenting in a feminine way, I realize that it is exactly that. Adopting and adapting feminine signals to my body. It’s perhaps less about wanting to be a woman, as it is about claiming the right to present my masculine body femininely if that aligns better with how i feel.

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@cliffordbeshers so beautiful!

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Fascinating…

… in a test of originality, subjects were asked to generate items in response to a cue. There were three conditions: in one, they had to respond immediately; in the second, after a few minutes’ conscious thought; and in the third, after being distracted for a few minutes on another task. The most creative and original answers came from the group that had been distracted.

McGilchrist, Iain . The Matter With Things: Our Brains, Our Delusions and the Unmaking of the World (p. 1059). Perspectiva Press. Kindle Edition.

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Michael Bogdanffy-kriegh
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@UndamnedOne hmmm… what would Freud make of that?